Spring Has Sprung!
The flowers are blooming and so are we!
Sun is Shining & The Weather is Sweet!
It is so nice to see Mother Nature spring back to life and flowers begin to bloom. Any signs of normalcy in this crazy world are comforting. We’ve set our intentions for this transformative season and doing the best we can to keep our urge to control in check. It’s easier said than done tbh lol
Checking in
As you know personal growth is not just the theme of the pod, it’s our daily experience. Here’s what’s been going on with us:
Tasha
April is here and I am feeling renewed!
I set some spring intentions and have been really leaning into them. The three I set were:
🌊 Flow; let things take the time they take. Don’t rush through life.
👛 Pack light; Let go of things that weigh me down.
🌼 Bloom; Put myself out there more, I have so much I am working on but I am not sharing or showing it yet now is the time.
Naturally I am starting with the first one. And I’ll tell ya, I KNEW what I was doing naming that one first! As I started to lean into flowing and not rushing I saw how much I cringed and recoiled as I tried. How busy my mind still was and how I was avoiding quiet stillness and truly tapping into my inner voice. The voice that knows me and knows what I truly desire. I’ve been in get it done mode. Setting goals and doing all I could to get them done and move on to the next step in my plans. I had lost the plot. I was praying for alignment but totally disconnected myself from my own energy. I was doing the work but forgot a key ingredient to alignment; Faith.
In fact the more I sat with why flowing was tough for me and why I was avoiding sitting in silence with myself, the more it began to make sense why I wasn’t feeling the alignment I was praying for. My faith has been low. I was afraid to lean on my faith so I was leaning on what felt real, doing something.
It was sad to realize I’d been neglecting my faith but it showed me where I should start in getting my flow to flow.
So lately I have been making it a point to do the things that fill my faith cup. Prayer, morning meditation, working in my garden, cleaning and rearranging my space and sharing my journey.
It’s only been a few days of this change but so far I feel so much lighter and tapped into my knowing. I can hear my inner voice clearer and have no problem slowing down and letting things take time. I am beginning to trust in divine timing. No longer feeling like if it isn’t happening quickly then it just isn’t meant to be.
It is a great start but I will check in next month and let you know where I am.
Other than that I am doing pretty good. Still feeling like I have a bunch of things in progress but I have this burning feeling that the work I am in the middle of is the work that is going to take me where I want to be. With my faith renewed, and my daily faith practices back on and spring being in full bloom I am ready and willing to keep doing the work knowing I am better for it each day.
Tay
Sooo I’m officially a 34 year old! With that, I am trying new tactics that help me stay grounded. I have a tendency to put my head down and power through it (“it” being regular day to day life lol) and crazy enough, it’s been causing my to dissociate. I’ve been experiencing lapses in memories where I can’t really remember what I did in the last few days and, according to my therapist, that’s not the healthiest way to approach things 😂
Something that was referred to me as a tactic to stay in the moment and help with short term memory is daily voice notes. In the voice notes, I recap my day and specifically things that stood out. I’ve been going strong with it for about a week and I do like the practice. I can’t say I’ve noticed a massive difference in memory yet BUT I do like the practice. It feels fun to recount the day and pay more attention to things that I liked. It also help me to further process the things I didn’t like, because I am good for pushing out the things I don’t feel like addressing.
Overall, I’m trying to be more open to feeling my feels. It’s crazy because I felt like I’d been working on that for a long time already, but it seems like things have just shifted to present in a new way. *sigh* Truly one of those phases in life that feel like “if it ain’t one thing, it’s another.” But I’m grateful to get to keep learning more about myself. One day at a time bro.
The Three Realest
A rotating list of what’s helping us get through the month. No ads. No fluff. Just three things we’re really vibing with.
Here are three things filling Tasha’s cup these days
The New Journal my husband bought me. The design is both cute and has a cool feel due to the flowers being sewn onto the leather. It is a sensory experience. Plus the pages are lined and have a neat way to circle the day of the week and write the date.
Sharing my writing on my Substack. From short stories to my journey through life it is nice to have my own place to put my writing out there and challenge myself to be consistent with writing something that will be made public each week. Being in control of my platform has been dope! Proud of myself for being consistent for 35 straight weeks!
My Garden! I planted some potatoes 3 months ago and they are sprouting and looking so good! I am excited to harvest them. My herbs are thriving and I have also added some green onions! It is nice to grow my own food and learn from mother nature. It is nice to be able to sit outside have my morning tea, get some writing done, and tend to my plant babies.
The Weekly Real
Podcast Gems
Every episode, we get into one thing that’s been showing up for us—emotionally, spiritually, or just straight up energetically. In this month’s episode we are talking about the struggles we are facing when surrendering ( well trying to surrender) to the flow of life, the songs that take us back in time, and our favorite segment- Things going on that we just don’t like!
Check out the full episode below ⬇️
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